Leuke wensvader in Amsterdam is op zoek

Hello all,

A friendly and easy-going single gay man, living and working in Amsterdam, is looking to become a father or create a unique blended family – open to various set-ups and constellations (m/f/d). 🙂

Short about myself:
I am in my early / mid 40ies and originally from Vienna (Austria). I moved to Amsterdam some years ago in 2020, in the middle of the pandemic, after living some years in Germany. I’m working in IT, am financially stable, and now after some challenging years of home office and lockdowns, I finally feel settled enough to pursue my long-lasting wish towards fatherhood.

I’m generally a very open, joyful, and relaxed type of person with a mix of sarcasm and positive curiosity but also usually a little bit reserved at the beginning before I open up and become more approachable. In my spare time I tend to be very active, like to go to the gym, run around town or nature (when it’s not raining), read or travel to explore new cultures & countries (typical cosmopolitan).

From a young age, I always knew I wanted to have kids and become a father, however I first felt that I needed to wait for the right partner. Now, after some time, exploring different options like adoption, surrogacy or fostering, I concluded that I would prefer the co-parenting model as my personal preference and now I feel more than ready to find someone to help make this dream come true together.

My ideal constellation would be a co-parenting arrangement – best with a 50/50 joint split of responsibilities from the beginning or an early stage on to allow the child to grow up directly being used to a stable exchange arrangement – where the child(ren) should be having two loving homes and us being able to arrange things among us to best support each other and the needs of everyone. If it works well, we can also plan together special events like holidays, Christmas, birthdays, etc. – just as a nice blended unique family constellation.

However, as life is unpredictable and every situation is unique, I am also flexible enough to discuss different settings or compromises along the way so that it works best for everyone – important part for me is to find a solution which is in the best interest of the child(ren) and us as parents so that everyone can live without conflicts or tensions.

Also, as for me parenthood is not defined by biological descendance, I am open to non-traditional constellations with co-parenting partners (f or also m) who either already have a child / children or who are already pregnant or in advanced preparation and are looking for a co-parenting partner to join, forming a unique and modern family bond.

Happy to hear from you if I did not already scare you off. 🙂
Tot ziens!

S.